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Marriage is
considered as one of the most important
sanskars and is itself considered as a 'yagna'
without which a person cannot get fulfillment
in 'dharma' or right conduct ; 'Artha' or
financial condition ; 'Karma' or sexual
fulfillment and 'Moksha' or final salvation.
Marriage is only means through which one can
pay one's 'Pitri-rina ( debts of parents) by
giving birth of children and bringing them up.
Marriage is considered not only for sexual
satisfaction but more importantly for progeny,
for promoting higher human values of self
control and self sacrifice, for proper
development of personality and for preventing
corruption in personal life.
Our 'Dharma-shastras'
also prescribe various qualifications and
disqualifications for bride and bridegroom as
given below-
Qualifications
of bride
:
Good looking,
balanced body, soft speech, freedom from
physical defects, sweet and sober name,
virginity, competent to be mother, should be
younger then the bridge groom & should belong
to be good family.
Disqualification
of bride
:
A girl having
brown hair, excessive body parts excessive
hair on the body, yellow eyes & suffering from
diseases is not considered auspicious. A
female having hard voice , speaking in
insulting tone, with disproportionate or
defective limbs, excessively tall or short
should be avoided.
According to
many "A female having her name similar to a
tree, mountain, river, constellation, bird,
snake or servant or having a ferocious name
should not be chosen for marriage".
Note:
The relevance &
importance of above feature have changed with
time. Moreover the considerations of 'Desha'
(country) 'Kaala' (time) and 'Patra (the
individual) will also decide what is good or
bad at a particular time & place.
Qualifications
of bridegroom
:
Bachelor, has
completed educations with Upnayana &
Samavarthana sanskar performed of marriageable
age, intelligent, wealthy, handsome & of good
character. He should be potent belong to a
good family.
Disqualifications:
A boy belonging
to same gotra, to a different caste should be
avoided. One who is weak, impotent, suffering
from epilepsy, paringsis, leprosy, weak
eyesight, impaired hearing is not considered
good. According to 'Vashistha' A person living
very near or very far excessively weak or
excessively strong, mentally retarded, very
old, ugly looking, with a big belly and not
having any source of income should not be
chosen for marriage.
Muhurta for
marriage
:
The choice of
proper time for marriage is complex process.
Here it is discussed in five stages-
Stage1: Ten
malefic combinations to be avoided in
marriage.
Stage2: Other 'Doshas'
or malefic combinations which should be
avoided as for as possible.
Stage3: Months,
Days, Nakshatras, Tithes, Lagnas and
Lagnasuddhi for marriage.
Stage4: Tribala
Suddhi or ensuring the transit stregth of Sun,
Arun & Jupiter. |
